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A Special Letter For Women
Only...
"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes
YOU Probably
Make With Men — And What To Do
About It..."
Here Are The Top Ten
Reasons Why Women Keep
Themselves From Living The Love
Life Of They're Dreams— And How
To Make Sure You Avoid Every One
Of Them...
MISTAKE #1: Betting YourLove
Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who
want the man they're dating to
behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure
you have friends who date guys
who don't have much going for
them or who don't treat them
very well.
Somehow these women always
have an excuse for the guy's
shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base
their choices of men on how
"nice" or "good" someone is to
them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they
do because they feel a powerful
GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue
to put up with a guy that
doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or
years...
But why in the world would
a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply,
they confuse the strong
attraction they feel for the guy
with a deeper "connection".
Women who do this are
doomed to end up in failed
relationships with the "wrong"
guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at
least a hundred times...
And because I've been this
guy in the past myself.
Thinking back on past
dating and relationships I've
had, I was selfish and didn't
offer much.
I'm amazed the women put
up with me.
But they did...all the
while hoping that I would
somehow change.
The women I dated hoped
I'd change.
The only thing they saw in
me that led them to want to keep
me around was the "potential"
they saw in me to share my
feelings and communicate with
them.
The potential for
something better and the
potential for me to change and
be a better lover, boyfriend,
companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was
hopelessly bad at these things
at the time.
And more importantly, I
wasn't even at a place in my
life where I knew how to or was
interested in developing a deep
and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.
But deep down these women
believed that if they tried hard
enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could
become someone else with
them.... and that this would be
easy for us both.
Talk about a losing
battle.
It doesn't make a lot of
"logical" sense...
But until you accept that
lots of women do this AND that
YOU could be doing it on some
level, you'll NEVER have the
success with men that you choose
and want.
MISTAKE #2:
Assuming You “Get” Men & Their
Psychology
Men are different from
women.
You need to accept this
fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man,
she can very quickly pick apart
certain things about his style,
body language, status and
character that will tell her all
kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even
consciously see that they do
this because the process is so
obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply
for men?
As you probably already
know, men are generally more
visual.
As a result, they often
don't understand non-verbal
communication as well as women.
And men often lack what
women have in emotional
awareness and "intuition".
Women don't seem to
remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually
attracted to w0men based just on
looks? Or is something else
going on?
Well, after studying this
topic for years now, and talking
to thousands of men and women, I
can tell you that men have their
"attraction mechanisms"
triggered by things OTHER than
looks.
Especially when it comes
to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be
the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most
powerful.
If you know how to use
your body language AND
communication correctly, you can
make men feel the same kind of
powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see
that hot, great looking guy that
you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to
do this.
And ANY woman can learn
how...
MISTAKE #3:
Pretending To Be Something For A
Man
In the desire to please a
man, women are constantly doing
things to get a man's attention,
to get him to like them or to
make him more attracted or in
love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly
think that doing unusual things
to try and get a guys attention
will make him magically see what
a great catch they are and want
to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are
never attracted to the types of
women who kiss up to them, make
weak plays for affection or
complain to get what they
want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
Things like being sexy for a man
or encouraging him to share his
feelings can be good, but it has
to be genuine, unselfish, and
most of all timely.
You don't have to act like
an "easy" woman for men to like
you, and you certainly don't
have to play like he's some gift
to the Earth.
Doing these things
actually works to subtly, at an
subconscious level, lower your
social status with a man, which
has EVERYTHING to do with how he
sees you as a woman.
So if you think that
making him more attracted to you
means "playing to the man's
fantasies" from the start, think
again.
You'll never succeed by
looking for a man's approval,
finding your way into his heart
through sex and not being
yourself.
MISTAKE #4:
Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early
With Him
Another huge and
unfortunate mistake that most
women make with men is sharing
how they "feel" too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single,
successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of
attention from women.
Most women don't realize
this, but attractive men are
being approached in one way or
another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have
usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have
EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns
an attractive men off and sends
him running away faster than
just about anything...
It's a woman who starts
saying "You know, I really,
REALLY like you" after one or
two dates.
This signals to the man
that you're just like one of
those "clingy" stereotype women
who want to rush into a
relationship and can't control
yourself from wanting a man to
fulfill them and complete their
lives.
This does NOT spell
ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back.
Relax.
There's a much better
way...
MISTAKE #5:
Misreading The Important
“Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly
communicating how they feel
about a woman and giving away
big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay
attention to these signals or
recognize them for what they
really are.
The signals men send have
4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at
in his own life - stability,
confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not
he's "emotionally available"
3) Physical: If he's attracted
to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to
building and growing a
relationship in the future
The funny thing is that
men send signals in these areas
completely on accident.
That's great news to
women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to
recognize these signals to get
anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6:
Relying On Your Natural Ability
To Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to
figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of
my life I've spent hundreds of
hours learning to understand
people.
I've studied peoples
behavior, "inner psychology" and
more specifically how they think
and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both
men and women have their own
secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these
secret communications if you
know what to look for.
Women communicate with
hints, body language, sarcasm,
and flirting when they're first
getting to know a man.
They can either directly
or indirectly let men know if
they're open to something more
serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate
with sarcasm, humor, cockyness
and other "indirect" displays of
status.
VERY RARELY will a man be
able to honestly communicate to
a woman whether or not he's
ready or capable of developing a
meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual
interests, men send very
indirect signals about where
they're at.
If you don't know how to
read through the signals men
send, then you'll get the wrong
message.
Getting the wrong messages
from men causes women more pain
and heartache than any other
issue around.
You can avoid this pain if
you learn to indentify a good
man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7:
Expecting A Relationship To Make
You Happy
A mistake I've seen women
make is thinking a guy will
change her life and make her
happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are
situations and relationships
where this happens.
But those are the
exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says "Run!" to a
man faster than hearing or
sensing that a woman immediately
wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE
looking for this kind of
situation aren't exactly the
most healthy, loving, nurturing
people out there.
Think, "controlling,
macho, or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear...
I think it's important
that people help fulfill each
other in their lives, whether
it's dating, a relationship,
whatever.
But if a woman
communicates that she's looking
for a guy to take care of her,
complete her, make her whole,
and all that kind of stuff - it
has a VERY negative effect on
what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be
spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels
this way, the man will see it
and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst
thing a woman can do early on
when dating a man.
So what can you do as a
woman?
You can get the man
interested and involved in your
life in a more "natural" way,
where he'll be motivated to make
you care about your happiness
and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it
really works for people - male
or female.
Self-motivation is much
stronger than external
motivation.
But you have to know how
to create this situation with a
man... and it rarely happens by
accident.
MISTAKE #8:
Trying To “Convince” Him To Like
You Or Love You
What do most women do when
they meet a man that they REALLY
like... but he's just not that
interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to
"convince" the man to feel
differently.
Well, I have news for
you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW
A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man
to feel differently about you
with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a man doesn't "feel it"
for you, how in the world do you
expect to change that by being
"reasonable" with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this
by the way.
They're always
complimenting women who don't
like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior
sometimes, but it NEVER makes
the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she
gets out of it, but it doesn't
change the way she FEELS about
him.
When a man just isn't
interested, women will try and
chase, compliment, convince and
do their best to change his mind
with logical and rational
approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that
will never work.
MISTAKE #9:
Not Knowing What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of
what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard
to believe, but if you're out on
a date with a man, he already
has an idea of what he wants
from you.
And if you don't know HOW
to find this out, and you just
sit there looking at him and
flirting, or trying things you
think will make him want you, he
won't help!
If you don't know what to
do in each situation, you'll
probably screw it up... and LOSE
EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10:
Not Getting Help
This is the biggest
mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women
from EVER having the kind of
success and finding the kind of
man and relationship that they
truly want.
I know, you don't like to
make yourself look weak or
helpless. We don't like to ask
for help.
Hey, I've been there
myself.
Let me tell you a little
about me.
Over the last few years
it's been hard to watch the
women around me (even those I
dated) struggle to understand
the men they were attracted to
or dating.
It frustrated the hell out
of me and I made the decision to
do whatever it took to help the
women I knew learn how to be
successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard
work and doing all kinds of
crazy things to learn the
real-world truth about men and
women, I finally figured things
out for myself.
I've read hundreds of
books on psychology, human
behavior, dating/relationship
advice for men and women, love,
attraction, communication, and
more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just
about any situation with dating
and feel confident and
understand everything that's
going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been
able to share my knowledge and
help women become more
successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding
experience, and it's how I
became fascinated with the
female perspective in the dating
world.
I've helped women get rid
of that sick, insecure
feeling... the one you get when
you're lonely, you've been hurt
or lied to, or when a man you
have feelings for says "he's not
ready".
You don't have to be
afraid you might wind up being
lied to, cheated on or that
you'll end up alone. |
